Two Times, Too Many?

Well, it's here. Homecoming. My homecoming. The real one. And on the eve of what should be my grand weekend, I'm feeling a little bit like my favorite ESPN columnist, Bill Simmons, when he went to Vegas with his fantasy football buddies for their league's 20th year celebration: old.

I'm tired. My original plan of loading my October weekends with substitution homecomings may now be coming back to haunt me. I mean, it's not like "back in the day" when my time during the week was consumed by 15 to 20 sober hours of work, tops, the rest spent prepping for the weekend with practice games of beer pong, mooseknuckle, flip cup and other various cardiovascular fitness activities. I work now, and the working man's body, although very much sober, is weak. Think about it, 40 hours a week I sit in front of a computer, staring at the screen thinking, "What happened?" The most exercise I do during the day is probably laughing at the "I loved College" Asher Roth spoof that my friend sent me the other day.

But, to quote my idol Bill Simmons, "[will this] stop [my friends and I from] putting on a throwback 48-hour show of...drinking, smoking, ball-busting, eating and (fill in every other verb that ends with "ing" except for the ones that would get us divorced)? Of course not." OK, so we're not that old that we need to worry about divorce, but some of us have girlfriends that would probably want those "ing's" left out of the list as well.

Tomorrow night at 9 my friends and I will embark on a mission to overcome the awkward second homecoming since our graduation. Are we too old to go back and still feel cool? Probably. Are we going anyway? Obviously. But as was push the envelope of what's socially acceptable in terms of the college comeback, I have to wonder, when will we finally be over the whole thing?

Maybe when I'm settled into a job, one that I'm truly happy with, where I'm writing and actually using the skills I learned while in school, will I begin to put to rest my memories of fondness towards college. But then again, maybe not. I've never heard anybody say, "Man, remember those middle years of our careers, when we were 35 and working for someone else, living on our own, with serious girlfriends/potential wives, hitting the hay at 9 pm, waking up at 6 (chipper and refreshed)...man those were really the best times ever!" Something tells me, for the most part, these middle memories humble in comparison to the glory days of college.

But alas, they're coming, and although the college years are closer to where I stand now on the time-line of life, unfortunately, the 30-somethings are (iceberg!) dead ahead.

So where does this leave my friends and me as we wait at the gates like worn out thoroughbreds about to sprint another tired lap- our awkward return, our mustered attempt to relive a life we enjoyed together...for the second time? Well, who knows? I don't have the answers. I'm just "in it to win it" as they say, praying I don't tweak an ankle along the way and, well, you saw the Kentucky Derby, you know what happens to injured race horses.

A Day in Dixie

Another weekend has come and gone, and yet another story to tell. My second replacement homecoming event took place in Charlottesville, Virginia. It involved a white dress, smiling friends and family, and an exchange of rings. That's right, a wedding. Ah the Holy union of young love, sealed beneath the arching boughs of two ancient Virginia oaks. What better reason to suit up in seersucker as if it were college game day, take it slow, and soak in some southern comfort?

What ensued was nothing too short of my expectations. After we got through the whole "I do," "I do" part, the mass of 300 people (a modest size for any proper Southern wedding) began to herd towards the cocktail pavilion, a small stone-laden out cove carved into the country hill. The wedding took place at James Monroe's house, a 17th century estate nestled in the hills of the Blue Ridge mountains. It was incredible. A real Southern gem. You could feel the power of the Southern elite while standing on top of the cascading hilltop, overlooking the "land of cotton," in total control of your surroundings. It must have been nice for all that to be a sustained reality...

Drink of the evening: Bourbon, what else? Especially since there weren't any other options. Bourbon was served for the men, vodka and wine for the ladies. There were no restrictions, of course, seeing as we live in a Northern-governed, post-women's rights movement era, but let's just say I wouldn't be caught dead with anything that was wasn't a stiff shade of brown in my clear cup.

Is it bad that as I stood around in my fancy clothes, chatting with the other guests in a newly acquired Southern accent and soft demeanor, I wondered what it would be like to be a plantation owner in the 17th century? I mean aside from the whole slavery thing, and possibly killing other humans, it seems like a pretty sweet deal. No overhead. No payroll. 100% profit. Incredible. It's probably about the closest thing to being royalty we Americans can conceive, so I rationalized that as justification for feeling almighty in conversation- a rolled up procession sheet, my scepter, a glass of whiskey, my orb. I am a Southern king...from New Jersey.

We stood, and ate, and drank- a sea of white faces discussing the phenomenon of the Southern business model. "How did these guys ever pull it off," we wondered. These inquiries were quickly washed away by more bourbon and more wine as we floated up the knoll to the reception area, and the party continued.

The next order of business after even more food and still more drinks, was mingling with the Southern belles. Mingle I did, or tried, but most of the Southern belles weren't ringing. Let me just say this: I'm no longer sold on the allure of the Southern girl. Blond hair, sweet manners, proper speech. I didn't find any of these assets to outweigh the utter bore most of them were. On the whole, they had little to say and offered even less to do, as they spent most of their time huddled around table 12 in the back corner of the room. Maybe they could smell the toxic New York air pouring from my clothes. I don't know, and I don't care.

So when the one bridesmaid came over to chat towards the end of the night, she got the cold shoulder. Denied for the mindless, yet far more entertaining banter of a Northern brunette I've known since I was about 10. United States: 1, Confederacy: 0. Nice try dollface, but my New York capitalist sense of reason has taught me to take the path of least resistance. I know where that lilting conversation is headed. A friendly handshake or an introduction to a UVA boyfriend? No thanks.

Overall, I'd say my Virginia homecoming was a positive experience. The scenery and overwhelming feeling of encouraged entitlement made up for the death of my notion that Southern women are like Stepford wives with great accents. I'm sure there are some fun ones out there, but the search continues. Maybe I need to head further South. After all, Virginia does still get cold in the winter, making it curiously Northern by my standards. Next up on the homecoming trips list: Birmingham, Alabama where I and two friends will road trip to Tuscaloosa to see the Crimson Tide take on the LSU Tigers in football. It's time to venture into the real south, the deep south, where the Civil War (I'm sorry, the war of Northern agression) is still an on-going battle. This should be fun. Ramma' Jamma' Yellow Hammer.